When the discussion became a "族群" issue, it would only make sense to move out of "望子成龙". Actually, this "angry mother" topic was never a "望子成龙" topic to start with. Her son was never at risk as much as she is.
-cca(不归的如来佛);
2010-8-15(#6228712@0)
Exactly. I never paid attention to where the other topics are.
-wincity(toad 会英文的红卫兵);
2010-8-15(#6228720@0)
这是我在ROLIA上看到的，少有的＂顺眼＂帖，＂靠谱＂帖。COMMON SENSE 本来是很简单，很直觉的东西。
-bushunyan(不顺眼);
2010-8-14(#6228540@0)
Note the most typical overcompensation to personal inferiority is via *exaggerated aggressiveness* -- which we have seen so much along the threads of related topics.May I add *excessive sensitivity and reactiveness*?
-cca(不归的如来佛);
2010-8-15{51}(#6228814@0)
俺没有说你否认吧？My point is people’s reactions to discriminations are very different. Some take it seriously or overreact, some don’t see it as a insult but OK with it, some just ignore… Whatever ways you decide as long as it works for you.
-thornthorn(Holy Moly);
2010-8-15(#6228947@0)
In many ways, it's still a power-play. You still needed to demonstrate your strength -- just not through yelling. It's a better form of power.
-cca(不归的如来佛);
2010-8-15(#6229200@0)
I don't think it's power play. I really think he's under too much pressure and he's near break-down point. The email exchange showed he's hot and destructive and I'm cool and constructive. That, I believe, is the real power play.
-wincity(toad 会英文的红卫兵);
2010-8-15(#6229219@0)
Tip of the day :)Make your point then move on. Let him feel that he is still the best or one of the best.
-thornthorn(Holy Moly);
2010-8-15{88}(#6229568@0)
Ok, I hear you. Move on. What is next target? From Jews to ducks, now what? Cats?
-hotmoon(梵高的耳朵);
2010-8-16(#6230005@0)
Thanks but you have overestimated me. Stay calm, be cool.. as 红卫兵often says.
-thornthorn(Holy Moly);
2010-8-19(#6235631@0)
唉,看的大多数的人在此表态没意识到生活中的歧视,我觉的有些自欺欺人.我早都过了这个阶段了.其实我提海外华人是弱势团体也是从实用的角度出发.这是从老黑那学的.他们有时遇到冲突,就直接说:You do not like my culture. You do not like my colour.Simple like that.其实和他们的文化和颜色一点关系都没有.但大帽子给你一戴,你就不敢动弹了.在我们看来是属无理取闹,但对于相对软弱的华人来讲,也可不妨一学.因为对方有可能是各种颜色的人,有可能是素质较差,或语言表达能力比较差,你有理都说不清的人
-hotmoon(梵高的耳朵);
2010-8-29{376}(#6250418@0)
I agree with you for this one: 容易针锋相对，主要是没有自信。只要你有自信，你就不会在乎他们怎么想，怎么看你。你就更容易把他们当人看，在平等的基础上看事，判断事。
-knl(青花瓷);
2010-8-29(#6250416@0)
Please don't try to make me "自悲". I am 悲 for the fact that Chinese Language is not getting enough respect here. I am 悲 for you and everybody here who is ignoring your mistake, including whoever put your post to 精华. It's not 自悲！
-zbt(周伯通);
2010-9-2(#6252292@0)
It's NOT a mistake.
-wincity(toad 会英文的红卫兵);
2010-9-2(#6256333@0)
建议你查查字典，补习中文，再不行，发起一个新“枫下调查”，“自悲的悲是不是错别字？”，让网友投票。Maybe it's originally hotmoon's mistake, you just copied it. However, if you copied the mistake, it's your mistake.
-zbt(周伯通);
2010-9-2(#6256495@0)
Instead of using the word "自以为是", you should say:"Thank you very much for trying to help me by pointing our a mistake. However, after....., I believe it's not a mistake. Because...."
-zbt(周伯通);
2010-9-2(#6256508@0)
你可不是一般的自以为是. -wincity(toad 会英文的红卫兵); 10:20 (#6256521@0) reply more
-wincity(toad 会英文的红卫兵);
2010-9-2(#6256528@0)