When the discussion became a "族群" issue, it would only make sense to move out of "望子成龙". Actually, this "angry mother" topic was never a "望子成龙" topic to start with. Her son was never at risk as much as she is.
-cca(不归的如来佛);
2010-8-15(#6228712@0)
Exactly. I never paid attention to where the other topics are.
-wincity(toad 会英文的红卫兵);
2010-8-15(#6228720@0)
这是我在ROLIA上看到的，少有的＂顺眼＂帖，＂靠谱＂帖。COMMON SENSE 本来是很简单，很直觉的东西。
-bushunyan(不顺眼);
2010-8-14(#6228540@0)
People with inferiority complex tend to compensate for their feelings of inferiority by achieving somewhere else like excelling in studies or sports. They always have the need to achieve in order to compensate for their inferiority; don't be surprised at the fact that a great number of achievers are a direct result of inferiority complex.
Another type of compensation is trying to act with superiority; you give a pretense that is contrary to your feelings, you think and act as if you are superior to everyone else just to compensate the feeling of being inferior,
Note the most typical overcompensation to personal inferiority is via *exaggerated aggressiveness* -- which we have seen so much along the threads of related topics.
-cca(不归的如来佛);
2010-8-15{51}(#6228814@0)
May I add *excessive sensitivity and reactiveness*?
俺没有说你否认吧？My point is people’s reactions to discriminations are very different. Some take it seriously or overreact, some don’t see it as a insult but OK with it, some just ignore… Whatever ways you decide as long as it works for you.
-thornthorn(Holy Moly);
2010-8-15(#6228947@0)
In many ways, it's still a power-play. You still needed to demonstrate your strength -- just not through yelling. It's a better form of power.
-cca(不归的如来佛);
2010-8-15(#6229200@0)
I don't think it's power play. I really think he's under too much pressure and he's near break-down point. The email exchange showed he's hot and destructive and I'm cool and constructive. That, I believe, is the real power play.
-wincity(toad 会英文的红卫兵);
2010-8-15(#6229219@0)
其实我提海外华人是弱势团体也是从实用的角度出发.这是从老黑那学的.他们有时遇到冲突,就直接说:You do not like my culture. You do not like my colour.Simple like that.其实和他们的文化和颜色一点关系都没有.但大帽子给你一戴,你就不敢动弹了.在我们看来是属无理取闹,但对于相对软弱的华人来讲,也可不妨一学.因为对方有可能是各种颜色的人,有可能是素质较差,或语言表达能力比较差,你有理都说不清的人
I agree with you for this one: 容易针锋相对，主要是没有自信。只要你有自信，你就不会在乎他们怎么想，怎么看你。你就更容易把他们当人看，在平等的基础上看事，判断事。
-knl(青花瓷);
2010-8-29(#6250416@0)
Please don't try to make me "自悲". I am 悲 for the fact that Chinese Language is not getting enough respect here. I am 悲 for you and everybody here who is ignoring your mistake, including whoever put your post to 精华. It's not 自悲！
-zbt(周伯通);
2010-9-2(#6252292@0)
It's NOT a mistake.
-wincity(toad 会英文的红卫兵);
2010-9-2(#6256333@0)
建议你查查字典，补习中文，再不行，发起一个新“枫下调查”，“自悲的悲是不是错别字？”，让网友投票。Maybe it's originally hotmoon's mistake, you just copied it. However, if you copied the mistake, it's your mistake.
-zbt(周伯通);
2010-9-2(#6256495@0)
Instead of using the word "自以为是", you should say:"Thank you very much for trying to help me by pointing our a mistake. However, after....., I believe it's not a mistake. Because...."
-zbt(周伯通);
2010-9-2(#6256508@0)
你可不是一般的自以为是. -wincity(toad 会英文的红卫兵); 10:20 (#6256521@0) reply more
-wincity(toad 会英文的红卫兵);
2010-9-2(#6256528@0)